Eleanor Roosevelt once said “You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people thought if you realized how seldom they do.”
As entrepreneurs, one of our main business goals should be to achieve high levels of success and hopefully be presented with amazing opportunities along the way. My blog, Mompreneur Mogul, recently had one of those opportunities. I was featured on Yahoo! with 40 million viewers. My traffic shot through the roof and so did my newsletter subscription. While it was an amazing ride, it didn’t come without adversity.
I started to get some pretty negative comments almost immediately and I realized in that moment that as your business grows, not everyone will be happy for you. Criticism is sadly something that usually comes along with success. When you find yourself in that situation, here are some quick tips to help you overcome the negative people and their attacks. Don’t just overcome these attacks but thrive in the midst of them.
Don’t read the reviews or nasty comments.
There’s a huge difference between constructive criticism and useless, nasty comments. Don’t waste your time looking at those. It won’t help your business and it will only leave you feeling deflated.
Realize that not everyone will like you or your business.
No matter how brilliant, how successful, or how rich you and your business become, some people won’t like you no matter what you do. Just accept that and move on.
Keep the pain factor in mind.
The people who rip you to shreds are not just “haters” they are “hurters”. Something in their life must be terribly wrong that they want to rip a total stranger to pieces. Remember they are hurting and then their words won’t sting quite so much.
Do not respond.
This is probably one of the hardest tip, yet the most important. When I read some of the things they said about me, my family and my appearance, I was pretty upset. One person even talked badly about the name I chose for my daughter. However, writing them wouldn’t change a thing. Any second you waste in that negative energy space is a valuable second lost on more productive tasks for your business. Refuse to allow yourself to get pulled into the negative riptide.
If you do happen to see something negative the worst thing you can do is to think on that over and over. The more you do the deeper the root will go. Soon you’ll either be totally livid or you’ll start believing it so just don’t even go there. Thus the reason to not read it in the first place.
Surround yourself with the opposite.
Nothing beats 1200 negative comments ( yes that’s how many probably a few more by now) then some great friends who are ready to lift you up. If you are in the heat of a harsh critique find a few good friends who really love you. You’ll feel better in no time. That’s why it’s wonderful to have some good friends.
Take A Break
Nothing removes negative energy better than some great fun. Grab those uplifting friends and go to your favorite sports game, hang out at the coffee house or whatever you want to do but just go have fun you’ll notice you will start to feel better immediately.
Understand that no one but you controls the course of your business, your life, and your destiny.
When you realize that no amount of criticism from another person can truly stop you from succeeding it makes it a little easier to handle.
Even the most successful people have to overcome critics. If the Beatles would’ve listened to Decca Records who not only turned them down but told them “guitar groups are on the way out”, we wouldn’t have been graced with such talent.
No matter what stage you may be in with your blog, your business, or in your life, keep on pressing on, ignore negative people, surround yourself with dreamers and people filled with vision. Keep your own mind filled with vision also and you will go very far.