So you’ve hit that wall again. The internal dialogue is doing its dance in your head and you believe what you are hearing. The “who do I think I am”, “I’m not qualified”, “They are so amazing”, “I’ve got nothing to share” have all arm wrestled their way back into being front and center and you are paralyzed with fear. You thought it was time to move forward with your business plans, but now you are seriously thinking that it was all a big mistake and you should just go find a j-o-b.
The problem is you already know deep within you that there’s more to life than settling but you can’t shake the fears that keep you from moving forward.
Believe me, I’ve been there. I think it’s safe to say that everyone I’ve ever talked to has come up against this type of self doubt and fear when moving toward your big dreams in life and business.
How come some people seem to move forward effortlessly and others want to curl up in the fetal position at the thought of moving ahead and taking steps that out just a little outside our comfort zone?
Each person I’ve interviewed about this topic has had a different story to tell but there were a lot of similarities in why they were able to move forward when fear was present.
Here are 5 steps that I use to help me when fear is present:
1. Say it out loud. When I keep it to myself, the fear dialogue gets louder to the point where it can really take over and take me down. When I say it out loud to someone I trust, it diffuses the power grip it has on me. Knowing you are not the only one makes it so much easier to just move on from the dialogue and start taking action.
2. Write out the worst possible scenario. When writing it all out, every last detail of the worst case scenario of what would happen if you fail, or no one shows up or whatever it may be, ask yourself if you would really die if that happened. I bet you will be surprised by what you find out about yourself.
3. Learn what you don’t know. If you don’t feel qualified, then where can you seek out courses, mentors, books, etc so that you know you are indeed qualified. This is NOT about getting the degree, or hiding away in your office preparing. No. You use this tool in conjunction with taking action. It’s just about soothing that place within yourself that knows you have some more work to do to understand your craft. When I signed up for Laura Roeder’s Creating Fame , I had no idea how much it was going to change my life and my business. I just wanted to learn how to use social media to leverage my business. But guess what? It did so much more than I could have imagined. I am confident, I trust myself, I ask people I admire to be involved in my projects, I take more risks and was able to completely shift from fear to feeling completely on purpose. The power of support and education combined with action? Priceless.
4. Don’t take it personally. When I’m taking every step so personally, I forget to have fun with the dream life I’m creating for myself. I get very serious, stressed out, each decision is HARD. When I step back and stop taking everything so personally, it gets easier to try things out and see if they work or not. If an action proves positive, great! If it proves to not be a great solution then I can make a different choice. No big deal. It isn’t who I am. It’s just a decision I made. I get to change my mind. I get to have fun creating my business.
5. Go on a photo walk. Yep! Go grab your phone and use it as your handy dandy fear buster. Go walk right outside your house and take photos of your surroundings. Really pay attention to what is around you. It helps you shift your attention from the busy mind, to the soulful heart. When you sink back into your soul and into you body you can make better decisions based on your higher purpose rather than from your ego. When you step back inside and sit in front of the computer you will have a restored sense of well being and that is always a great place to get busy creating your dreams.