Your Fear*Less Leader
Catherine Just

5 Steps to Move Through the Fear and Into Your Greatness

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So you’ve hit that wall again. The internal dialogue is doing its dance in your head and you believe what you are hearing. The “who do I think I am”, “I’m not qualified”,  “They are so amazing”, “I’ve got nothing to share” have all arm wrestled their way back into being front and center and you are paralyzed with fear. You thought it was time to move forward with your business plans, but now you are seriously thinking that it was all a big mistake and you should just go find a j-o-b.

The problem is you already know deep within you that there’s more to life than settling but you can’t shake the fears that keep you from moving forward.

Believe me, I’ve been there. I think it’s safe to say that everyone I’ve ever talked to has come up against this type of self doubt and fear when moving toward your big dreams in life and business.

How come some people seem to move forward effortlessly and others want to curl up in the fetal position at the thought of moving ahead and taking steps that out just a little outside our comfort zone?

Each person I’ve interviewed about this topic has had a different story to tell but there were a lot of similarities in why they were able to move forward when fear was present.

Here are 5 steps that I use to help me when fear is present:

1.     Say it out loud. When I keep it to myself, the fear dialogue gets louder to the point where it can really take over and take me down. When I say it out loud to someone I trust, it diffuses the power grip it has on me. Knowing you are not the only one makes it so much easier to just move on from the dialogue and start taking action.

2.     Write out the worst possible scenario. When writing it all out, every last detail of the worst case scenario of what would happen if you fail, or no one shows up or whatever  it may be, ask yourself if you would really die if that happened. I bet you will be surprised by what you find out about yourself.

3.     Learn what you don’t know. If you don’t feel qualified, then where can you seek out courses, mentors, books, etc so that you know you are indeed qualified. This is NOT about getting the degree, or hiding away in your office preparing. No. You use this tool in conjunction with taking action. It’s just about soothing that place within yourself that knows you have some more work to do to understand your craft. When I signed up for Laura Roeder’s Creating Fame , I had no idea how much it was going to change my life and my business. I just wanted to learn how to use social media to leverage my business. But guess what? It did so much more than I could have imagined. I am confident, I trust myself, I ask people I admire to be involved in my projects, I take more risks and was able to completely shift from fear to feeling completely on purpose. The power of support and education combined with action? Priceless.

4.    Don’t take it personally. When I’m taking every step so personally, I forget to have fun with the dream life I’m creating for myself. I get very serious, stressed out, each decision is HARD. When I step back and stop taking everything so personally, it gets easier to try things out and see if they work or not. If an action proves positive, great! If it proves to not be a great solution then I can make a different choice. No big deal. It isn’t who I am. It’s just a decision I made. I get to change my mind. I get to have fun creating my business.

5.    Go on a photo walk. Yep! Go grab your phone and use it as your handy dandy fear buster. Go walk right outside your house and take photos of your surroundings. Really pay attention to what is around you. It helps you shift your attention from the busy mind, to the soulful heart. When you sink back into your soul and into you body you can make better decisions based on your higher purpose rather than from your ego.  When you step back inside and sit in front of the computer you will have a restored sense of well being and that is always a great place to get busy creating your dreams.

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About Catherine Just

Catherine is an award-winning photographer with a passion for helping others achieve their dreams. Her photos have been published on the cover of National Geographic Magazine and inside Oprah.com. She leads Soul*Full Retreats and eCoursesfor women merging creativity and personal growth. Find out which one is the best fit at http://www.catherinejust.com, and follow her on Twitter.

Comments

  1. Well one thing is for sure, I really believe anyone should have a job to keep things going while he or she is building a business online or offline. Not forever, but just enough to get things really going. Personally, I am putting all my available income into my business.

    Aside from that, it can be tough to get over these fears. One thing that helps me is by surrounding myself with uplifting and like-minded people, even if it’s just online. Feeling inspired is a great way to keep moving forward. The final key component is taking consistent daily action to reach the goals you have.

    Thanks a bunch for this awesome post!
    -Gabe Johansson

  2. Thanks for this informative post Catherine!

    I love the photo taking idea to shift your mind. It also gets you out for a walk and provides pictures you can share on various social media platforms.

    Thanks again!
    -Jesse

  3. Love #5 I have done that before and never really thought of it in regards to fear. Today i shot two roses and it felt great. will keep this in mind when the big F shows up.

  4. A really insightful and helpful blog post Catherine- thanks for sharing.
    I totally agree with your advice- especially the bit about saying your fears out loud. This is an act of confrontation and by speaking them out loud, you’re showing you have awareness over them. As with everything ego related- awareness is power.
    I think as entrepreneurs, learning to deal with and manage our own fear is often the most important thing. You can learn every business trick and strategy, but if you’re not feeling empowered and in a good place on the inside you’ll be seriously sabotaging your success. A book that I absolutely love, and that your blog post reminds me of, is Do The Work by Stephen Pressfield- well worth a read! Beth

  5. Hi Catherine,

    love this post because it was written for me personally ;-) Already the first paragraph describes exactly where I am at at the moment.

    Your advice is refreshingly different, especially talking about our fears and writing down the worst-case scenaria.

    I am going to do that.

    Take care

    Oliver

  6. Catherine, thanks for this – #3 & #4 can be paralyzing for sure. So much time is spent trying to get it right/perfect before ‘trying’ a thing, it keeps so many people from actually doing that thing they say their heart desires.

    Awesome post!

  7. I love #5 as well. Even if you don’t take a photo, grab a notebook or a sketch pad – something that will distract you.

    I do #2 ALL the time. I mean, really, what IS the worst that could happen?

    Cathy

  8. Catherine,
    Very empowering suggestions, and great advice. We all encounter fear, but the truly courageous press on toward living the life of their dreams…Your suggestions just made taking action a reality, if we actually take the tips you gave, and use them whenever we’re struggling with fear.

    Great Advice, Thanks
    Randell

  9. Thanks so much for this post. It hit the mail on the head. Fear can feel overwhelming at times and Create a negative cycle. Love the suggestion of writing out the worst case scenarios. I have clients do that and it really helps.

  10. Well said, Catherine! Excellent advice and great pointers to help keep it all in perspective. As always, you’re such an inspiration, Catherine. Thank you!

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